Why Me vs. Why Not Me

A friend of mine told me a story the other day. His dear friend had gotten terminal cancer and passed away. One important lesson she taught my friend was that for the entire time she had the illness she did not suffer mentally. She was able to keep her spirit high. The secret was, instead of continuing to ask the question of  “Why me?” she accepted the “what is” and answered with “Why not me?”. Although they both seem to be questions there are significant differences in the two where I have demonstrated here. 

In the last three years of her life, she was able to enjoy every moment of it and it was probably the best three years of her entire life. I always believe there’s a reason for everything. The fact that my friend told me about the story and now that I’m sharing it with you is because she left an important lesson for all of us to learn, especially the ones that are reading this post. I’m grateful for her valuable contribution and legacy to the world. 

Why Me vs. Why Not Me

“Why Me” is a forever unanswered question that brings us endless suffering. 
“Why Not Me” is a simple answer to many of our complicated questions that leads us to clarity and the relief of misery.

“Why Me” represents the unknown which often involves fear.
“Why Not Me” is absolute certainty that only gives you sheer confidence. 

“Why Me” is persistence which will be met with continued resistance.
“Why Not Me” is total acceptance accompanied by faith that results in seamless flow.

“Why Me” is not only selfish but also cowardly because we wish it happened to someone else other than us.
“Why Not Me” is selfless and brave that fully engages the challenges head on and bears all responsibilities.

Therefore,

“Why Me” is the source of suffering whereas
“Why Not Me” is the source of peace and joy. 

​- Feelasoulphy