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The Power of Awareness: How Consciousness Shapes Your Reality

10/23/2025

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What you are aware of is your reality.
Simple sentence. Infinite depth.


Reality doesn’t just exist “out there” somewhere waiting to be discovered. It unfolds in here—within the field of your awareness. You could be standing in the same room as another person, breathing the same air, hearing the same sounds, yet living in two entirely different realities. One person feels peace; the other feels anxiety. One sees opportunity; the other sees threat. The outer world is the same, but the inner awareness is not.

So what’s real?
Both—and neither.

Reality, as we experience it, is a mirror reflecting our state of consciousness. Awareness is the light that reveals what’s in the mirror. When the light is dim, the reflection is blurry and distorted. When the light brightens, the truth appears clearer, richer, and more whole.


The Power of Awareness

Awareness is not just passive observation—it’s participation. The moment you become aware of something, you interact with it. You give it meaning. You bring it into existence for you.

That’s why self-awareness is so transformative.
When you see your own thoughts clearly, they lose their power to unconsciously steer your emotions and behaviors. When you observe your fears, they stop dictating your choices. What you are aware of, you control; what you are not aware of, controls you.

The unexamined parts of the mind—those shadowy regions of pain, resentment, or false belief—still operate, but without your conscious permission. They become the hidden puppeteers of your “reality.” You react, repeat, and relive. The same arguments, same relationships, same emotional loops—different faces, same energy.

Only when you become aware of those patterns do you gain the power to change them.


Awareness Expands Reality

Your awareness defines the edges of your universe.
As it expands, so does your world.

When you become aware of beauty, life becomes beautiful.
When you become aware of love, love surrounds you.
When you become aware of the miracle of breath, the simple act of breathing becomes sacred.

Spiritual growth isn’t about escaping reality—it’s about waking up to more of it. You start noticing the subtleties: the silence between sounds, the energy behind emotions, the consciousness within every being. You start living not just as a thinker of thoughts but as the observer of the thinker—the still presence that watches everything come and go.

And in that stillness, a new kind of peace emerges—not because life got easier, but because your awareness outgrew the chaos.


The Practical Side

This isn’t just philosophy; it’s profoundly practical.

When you shift your awareness, your experience changes. For instance:

  • If you focus only on what’s missing, you’ll feel lack.
  • If you focus on what’s working, you’ll feel gratitude.
  • If you become aware of your body, you’ll naturally calm the mind.
  • If you become aware of the present moment, the past and future lose their grip.​

Awareness is the ultimate form of freedom. It doesn’t require money, status, or approval—just willingness. The willingness to look. To see. To wake up.


The Art of Living Consciously

Every day, life invites you to expand your awareness—to step beyond autopilot and into conscious living. You can start small:

  • Notice your breath before reacting.
  • Observe your emotions without labeling them.
  • Listen fully when someone speaks.
  • Watch your thoughts pass like clouds rather than storms.

As your awareness deepens, you begin to sense something extraordinary: you were never your thoughts, emotions, or circumstances. You were the awareness behind them all—the quiet, luminous presence that has always been watching.

That realization changes everything.
Because then, your reality no longer happens to you. It happens through you.


Final Thought

What you are aware of is your reality.
So if you want to change your reality, don’t start with the outer world.
Start with awareness.

Expand it.
Deepen it.
Guard it like sacred ground.

Because awareness isn’t just what you have--
It’s what you are.
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Why Do We Go Through Phases?

8/8/2025

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The Flower Fields, Calsbad, California, USA

The Spiritual Purpose Behind Our Shifting Passions, Identities, and Paths

Have you ever looked back at your life and wondered, “Who was I back then?”
Maybe you went through a spiritual phase, a fitness phase, a minimalist phase, a business-building phase, or even a wild-and-free phase. And now, you’re in an entirely different chapter — with different passions, desires, and even a different sense of self.

You’re not flaky. You’re evolving.
You’re not lost. You’re learning.
You’re not inconsistent. You’re in a phase — and that’s not only normal, it’s necessary.


Phases Are How the Soul Grows

From a spiritual lens, our souls incarnate with a plan — not a rigid blueprint, but a flexible curriculum. The soul doesn’t want sameness, it wants expansion. And how do we expand? Through experience.

Each phase you’ve been through — no matter how random or unrelated it seemed at the time — held a piece of your puzzle. Some taught you discipline. Others cracked your heart open. Some helped you build, while others taught you how to let go.

From the soul’s perspective, there’s no such thing as “wasted time.” Only lessons.


The Psychology of Phases: You’re Wired to Shift

Neurologically speaking, we’re not meant to stay in one mode of operation forever. The human brain is shaped by neuroplasticity, which means it constantly adapts, rewires, and reshapes itself based on what you focus on.

When you go through a phase, you’re literally forming new neural pathways. You’re reprogramming your mind. This isn’t failure — it’s progress.

Yes, society often glorifies “consistency” and “persistence,” but it forgets that adaptability is just as powerful a form of intelligence. The oak tree is sturdy, but the bamboo survives the storm.


When to Shift, When to Stay

Here’s the part many people get stuck on — how do you know when it’s time to move on, and when you’re just bored or avoiding something uncomfortable?

True soul-guided shifts feel expansive, even if they’re scary.
Avoidant shifts feel relieving at first but leave you feeling hollow.


Some things are meant to be completed. They require your full presence and persistence — not because you’re “supposed to stick with it,” but because there’s a deep soul lesson embedded in the completion, not the escape.


The Gift of Many Selves

You are not here to be one fixed character your whole life.

You’re a multidimensional being having a multidimensional experience. The version of you who loved painting at 20, the one who dove into meditation at 30, and the one now craving simplicity and nature — they’re all you. None of them were wrong or off-path. They were stepping stones. They were phases. They were part of the unfolding.

Imagine doing only one thing your entire life — thinking the same, acting the same, dressing the same, believing the same. That’s not consistency. That’s stagnation.

The river flows because it moves.


A Reminder for the Multi-Passionate Souls

So if you’ve ever been made to feel like you “change too much,” here’s your permission slip:

You’re not meant to stay the same. You’re meant to stay true.

And “true” will look different depending on the season of your soul.

The world needs stable builders and daring shapeshifters. We need the ones who master one path for 40 years — and the ones who master the art of reinvention every 5.

What matters most is that you’re conscious of your direction.

Let your phases be sacred.
Let your seasons be teachers.
But also learn to listen:
Which ones are calling you to finish the lesson?
And which ones are whispering: It’s time to begin again?


Final Thought: Phases Are Not Detours

They’re the journey itself.
Just make sure you’re not jumping ship because of discomfort…
And you’re not staying out of fear of change.

Complete what you came to complete.
And when it’s done — don’t be afraid to move on.

Because the next phase might just be the one that unlocks everything.
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Kiwi Lessons: Mindfulness, Connection, and Truly Tasting Life

7/10/2025

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               “What if the world was always this vivid—and we just forgot to pay attention?”

Most of us eat distracted.
We’re watching TV. Scrolling. Talking over dinner.
We don’t even taste our food.
But one day, I learned what it was like to really eat.
I was on an edible.
I remember biting into a kiwi.
Suddenly, it was electric.
Juicy. Tart. Sweet. The texture of the seeds. The smell of the fruit.
​Every sense was awake.

Even watching a movie, I felt more emotional, more attuned to what was happening on screen. It was like my empathy was dialed up—I could sense what the characters felt.
It was such a strange gift.


Why did this happen?

It turns out this isn’t magic. It’s attention.
Edibles (like cannabis) can reduce activity in the default mode network (DMN)—the part of the brain responsible for mind-wandering and constant self-narration.
When the DMN quiets down, sensory networks become more active.
Emotions and empathy rise to the surface.
In other words:
When you’re really here, you really feel.


Eating is special

Eating is one of the few everyday activities that naturally engages all our senses:
Sight: color, shape, presentation.
Smell: aroma.
Taste: layers of flavor.
Touch: texture, weight.
Sound: crunch, slurp, chew.
It’s designed to be immersive.
But we numb it by multitasking and rushing.
When you actually focus?
It’s an experience.


It’s not just food—it’s people

This kind of presence doesn’t just change eating.
It changes how we connect with others.
When you really listen to someone—without waiting to talk, without checking your phone—you hear them on a different level.
You notice subtle emotions in their voice.
You see the story in their eyes.
You feel with them, not just next to them.
Presence is the foundation of empathy.
And empathy is what deepens connection.


Science agrees

Mindfulness meditation reduces DMN activity, just like certain drugs can—but without side effects.
It increases interoceptive awareness (body sensations) and sensory acuity.
It also strengthens brain regions linked to empathy and compassion (anterior cingulate, insula).
Long-term meditation practice literally rewires the brain for presence.


Drugs vs. Meditation

Drugs can open the door to this state.
They show you how present you could be.
But they don’t train you to stay there.
Meditation does.
Presence practice does.
It’s a lifelong shift, not a temporary escape.


Try This: A Mindful Eating Practice

Pick something simple. A kiwi. An apple. Chocolate.
Look at it carefully. Color. Shape.
Smell it.
Take a slow bite.
Chew carefully. Feel the texture. Notice the sound.
Taste all the flavors.
Keep bringing your mind back when it drifts.
This isn’t just about food.
It’s a training ground for attention.


A Practice for Connection

Next time you’re with someone:
Put the phone away.
Look them in the eyes.
Really listen.
Notice tone, words, pauses.
Feel what they’re feeling.
Watch how the conversation changes.
Watch how you change.


Final Reflection

That kiwi taught me that life is always offering something beautiful—if I’m willing to really show up for it.
Food can be spiritual.
Conversations can be sacred.
This moment can be everything.

Presence turns ordinary life into holy ground.
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Part 1: The Story We Tell About Ourselves

6/10/2025

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A guide to understanding and rewriting the inner story that shapes your life

​Introduction

​One of the most powerful forces in your life is the story you tell yourself.

This story — about who you are, what the world is like, and what is possible — runs in the background of your mind all the time.
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It shapes:

  • How you see yourself
  • How you feel about life
  • How you treat others
  • The opportunities you notice (or don’t notice)
  • The actions you take — or avoid

Most of us rarely examine this story consciously.
Often it was written for us by others: parents, teachers, culture, media, past experiences.

But here’s the good news: you are the author of your story and you have the pen in your hand.
You can rewrite it. And when you do, your life begins to change.


Why is your story so important?

Your brain is a storytelling machine.
It is always trying to make sense of the world by building a narrative.

This narrative acts like a filter through which you experience life.
You don’t experience life directly — you experience it through the lens of your story.


How this works in the mind (psychology):

  • Your brain craves consistency between your story and your experiences.
  • Through confirmation bias, it notices what matches the story and ignores what doesn’t.
  • Your story influences how you feel and behave — and your behavior often reinforces the story.

In other words: we live inside our story more than we live inside objective reality.


Analogies to help you understand:

Your story is like your glasses.

Every day, you put on “story glasses.”
If they say “Life is a struggle,” you’ll notice struggle everywhere.
If they say “I’m someone who makes a difference,” you’ll find opportunities to do so.

We don’t see life as it is — we see it as our story tells us it is.

Your story is like your brain’s operating system.

Just like your phone runs on iOS or Android, your mind runs on a “story operating system.”

If it’s an outdated OS written by fear or old beliefs, it limits what you can do and experience.
When you rewrite your story, you upgrade your OS — and life runs smoother, freer, more aligned with who you really are today.


Visual: The Story Cycle

  • Reality → Filtered through your story → What you notice → How you feel → How you act → New experiences → Reinforce your story → Cycle repeats.

If you change the story, the whole cycle begins to shift.


Real-life examples:

“I’m not creative.”

A woman believed she wasn’t creative because of one teacher’s comment years ago.
She rewrote the story and became an artist and a poet.

“People will always disappoint me.”

A man carried this story from past betrayal.
It made him guarded in relationships, which led people to pull away.
When he rewrote his story to allow trust where it is earned, his relationships transformed.

“The world is dangerous and getting worse.”

A woman consumed only negative news and became anxious and withdrawn.
By balancing her inputs and rewriting her story to acknowledge both challenges and goodness, her anxiety eased and she re-engaged with life.


The Work:

I encourage you to reflect deeply on the story you tell yourself — and to start consciously rewriting it if needed.

Here are the questions you can work through:

Reflection Questions — The Story You Tell Yourself

1. What’s the story you always tell yourself?
(Example: “I’m someone who struggles with relationships.” Or “I’m a guide and healer helping others.”)

2. How does it make you feel when you run that story through your head?

3. How do you like your story?
(Is it empowering? Limiting? Fulfilling?)

4. Where do you think you got the story from?
(Parents? Culture? Past experiences? Media? Your own reflection?)

5. How valid or truthful do you think your story is?
(How much of it is still true? How much is an old version of you?)

6. If you had a chance to rewrite your story, how would you do it?
(What story would serve you better now?)


Final thoughts

“Stories are powerful — but remember this: you are the storyteller. Every day is a new page.”

I encourage you to take this process seriously.
The more conscious you become of your inner story, the more freedom, clarity, and joy you will experience in life.


Read:
Part 2: The Story We Tell About Others
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​Part 3: The Story We Tell About the World
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Walking Meditation in Nature: A Gateway to Higher Awareness

4/28/2025

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Woods Trail, Sierra Azul Preserve, San Jose, California, USA
​There are many different types of meditation, but the goal is always the same: to achieve a meditative state.

Walking meditation is a beautiful practice that not only relaxes your body and mind but can also lead you into deeper states of consciousness, such as Alpha and even Gamma brainwave states, where profound realizations happen.

Here’s how to approach it to get the most out of the experience:

1. Choose the Right Trail
  • Pick an easy and familiar trail. A harder trail can be distracting because you have to focus on climbing instead of meditating.
  • Walking somewhere you know well also prevents anxiety about getting lost, allowing you to relax more deeply.

2. Minimize Distractions
  • Walk alone if possible. Talking with others will pull you out of your meditative state.
  • If walking with others, let them know you want to walk in silence for a period.
  • No phones, no music, no social media. Only use your phone briefly to jot down notes if needed.
  • Every distraction pulls you out of Alpha and delays your ability to reach deeper meditative states.

3. Engage All Six Senses

Fully experience your surroundings through:
  • Sight: Notice colors, plants, animals, insects, clouds.
  • Hearing: Listen to the sound of the wind, birds, footsteps, flowing water, buzzing insects.
  • Smell: Breathe in the scent of trees, flowers, earth.
  • Taste: Taste the air or a natural snack like a berry (if safe).
  • Touch: Feel the texture of leaves, bark, or the soil under your feet.
  • Feeling/Energy: Notice the subtle energy of the environment and how it interacts with you.

Take your time. Stop and observe. Take photos if you feel inspired — nature is the ultimate playground for your inner artist.
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Beautiful Lupin with patterned water drops on its leaves.

4. Deepen Presence

When you relax into the present moment, your experience of nature intensifies — similar to how senses are heightened under the influence of edibles.

One reason for this is simple: full concentration on the now magnifies your experience.

The vast majority of nature has never been truly experienced by most humans — not because it isn’t beautiful, but because our attention is often elsewhere.

5. Be Mindful 
  • ​Ask yourself: What am I noticing now that I never noticed before? Jot it down to revisit later.
  • If you’re not typically a “nature person,” resist the urge to wish you were somewhere else. True unhappiness often comes from wishing to be somewhere other than where you are.
  • Give the experience a chance by giving it your full attention.

6. Set Intentions, Not Expectations
  • Set an intention to open yourself to insights, but don’t expect a particular outcome.
  • With no rigid expectations, you’ll allow the universe to guide you in its own timing.

7. Cultivate a Childlike Curiosity

​Children are naturally curious — that’s why they learn so quickly and experience so much joy.

Scientists and passionate people share this trait too: they remain curious, which keeps their mind and heart alive.

Adopt a spirit of curiosity during your walk — it will deepen your experience and open new doors within you.

8. Try New Sensory Exercises
  • Close your eyes while standing still to heighten your other senses and expand your imagination.
  • Touch a tree and feel its texture and energy.
  • Walk barefoot if possible to connect with the earth.

9. Understand Brainwave States

Meditation often aims to move your brain into deeper states:
  • ​​Alpha Waves: Relaxed, peaceful awareness — your senses become sharper.
  • Gamma Waves: Deep concentration, flashes of insight, heightened creativity.

During walking meditation, you’ll likely move in and out of Alpha and Gamma. Let it happen naturally — never force it.

Relaxation comes first. Depending on your current mood and state of mind, it might take 20–30 minutes to start feeling relaxed and present.

Once in Alpha:
  • ​You’ll feel calm, peaceful, and more connected to your surroundings.
  • You can stay in Alpha to simply enjoy the walk, or
  • You can transition into Gamma by concentrating deeply on a subject or contemplating a question.

In both states, you’re much more likely to experience epiphanies and “aha” moments — profound realizations that may even be life-changing.

10. Why Epiphanies Happen

Normally, our daily lives interrupt our thoughts constantly. We accumulate fragmented, incomplete thoughts that never fully connect. But when the right environment, relaxation, mood, information, and attention come together, your mind naturally makes connections between those fragments — unlocking wisdom already inside you.

(I’ll write more about this important process in a future post.)

11. Pace Yourself
  • ​​Walk at a slow, mindful pace.
  • Stop whenever you feel drawn to observe something.
  • There’s no rush. Let the journey unfold naturally.

Reminders
  • You don’t need to stick with just one subject or question during your meditation.
  • Let your intuition guide you.
  • If you prefer structure, set 1–2 questions beforehand as a gentle intention.
  • Epiphanies are a gift, not a guarantee. Enjoy the journey, no matter the outcome.
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A stream running through the forest

​Suggested Questions and Prompts for Walking Meditation

If you feel called to, you can take one or two reflection questions with you on your walk. You can also allow your intuition to guide you naturally without any set focus. Either way, there is no need to force insights or outcomes—set your intention to stay open, curious, and present, and trust that whatever needs to arise will come in its own time.

If you want structure, try asking yourself:
  • ​What is something I am grateful for right now?
  • What emotion am I feeling at this moment? Where do I feel it in my body?
  • What is one limiting belief I’m ready to let go of?
  • What areas of my life need more attention and care?
  • What does my soul want me to know today?
  • Where am I holding on too tightly? What would happen if I let go?
  • How can I connect more deeply with nature and life around me?
  • If I lived with no fear, what would I do differently?

Or simply notice and reflect:
  • What am I seeing today that I never noticed before?
  • What sounds can I hear that I usually tune out?
  • What textures, smells, or sensations am I experiencing right now?
  • How does my body feel as I slow down and become more present?

Gentle Tips
  • Choose just one or two prompts if you prefer structure.
  • Or stay open and let the right questions arise naturally during your walk.
  • Jot down realizations or observations to revisit later.

Remember, the goal is not to force answers but to create the space where answers naturally arise.

Final Thoughts

Walking meditation is a beautiful practice of reconnecting—with yourself, with nature, and with the present moment. Each walk will be different. Some days you may feel deeply connected and inspired; other days you may simply enjoy a peaceful stroll. Both are valuable. Trust the process. The more you practice, the more natural it becomes to enter deeper states of awareness. Let nature be your guide, your mirror, and your playground. Walk with presence, curiosity, and an open heart—and allow the wisdom within you to arise when the time is right.

Also check out this post about The Healing Power of Nature We May Not Know.
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A Magical World

9/2/2024

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Royal Gorge Bridge, Colorado, USA
"The world is magical, it’s our perception that’s dull."
         - Feelasoulphy


We often define "magical" as something so beautiful or delightful that it seems removed from everyday life. But here's the issue: what happens when everything becomes just "everyday life"? Nothing feels extraordinary anymore. The world loses its wonder, and everything starts to seem normal and mundane. 

Imagine if dragons flew in the sky every day—wouldn't they soon become as ordinary as birds? Or consider if cancer could be cured as easily as a common cold—would we still see it as a miracle? When the extraordinary becomes routine, we stop noticing the magic around us.

To rediscover the magic and wonder in our lives, we need to see the world with the eyes of a child. For a child, everything is new and exciting. They are naturally curious, living fully in the present moment. The world is a vast, unexplored place filled with endless possibilities. But as we grow older, we start to believe that we've seen it all. We stop exploring, and learning becomes a chore. Education shifts from a joyful discovery to a responsibility, driven by grades and the expectations of others.

So, how can we learn to love learning again? The answer lies in rekindling our curiosity—just like a child. When we are curious, we want to learn. We don’t need to be forced; the desire to know drives us. We want to understand why things are the way they are, and we eagerly seek out the answers on our own. Today, we have countless tools at our disposal to satisfy our curiosity. The answers are out there; we just need to ask the right questions.

To trigger our childlike curiosity again, we need to observe the world closely and perceive things in ways that aren’t taught to us. Look at a seed—how does it grow from something so small into a towering tree? Isn’t that magical? How is it that birds can fly while we remain grounded? How can we communicate with someone on the other side of the world in real-time through a device? We even have the ability to transform our bodies, changing form through exercise—like modern-day shapeshifters. And perhaps most magical of all, we have the power to create life itself. These everyday miracles are astonishing when we stop to think about them.

Life is full of wonders, waiting to be explored. It’s not life that becomes mundane; it’s our perception of it. We must encourage our children—and ourselves—to keep asking "why." Let’s be patient, explore the unknown together, and allow ourselves to be amazed by the world once more.

​- Feelasoulphy




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What Does The Stock Market Teach Us About Life?

1/11/2022

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​I’m a financial advisor by trade but when I’m not working I’m spending a lot of time contemplating about life because life really fascinates me! It’s one of those things that you will never know what is really about because it changes constantly as you evolve every second. What life means to you may not mean the same to others. Since no one has THE answer about the meaning of life it becomes how we perceive life individually. In other words, we live in a reality that we have created entirely based on our own unique perceptions of what life should be at the moment. Therefore, at this very moment, life to me is like this…

 
For over 20 years being a financial advisor I never really put the two together until recently it came to me as another profound realization of life. It happened to be on a day that I didn’t feel well mentally. While I was reflecting on how crappy I felt at that moment something just clicked! I realized how many of these crappy moments I had felt in the past years of my life. I don’t track these moments but if I have to guess I’d say probably in the thousands! Now, I’m not saying I had a very terrible day that I felt depressed. It was one of those days that I just didn’t feel very positive. A series of negative thoughts arose all of the sudden for no reason, however, for the most part, I must say I’m a very positive person and I am well aware this is normal.

Anyway, I realized that after thousands of these moments I still managed to survive and became the person I am happy to be today. I asked myself if I’d go back in time to change all those little crappy moments. My answer was a firm NO! Not only would I not get rid of those moments in my life, I also wouldn’t erase the darkest period of times that I went through to get here. Why? Because without them I wouldn’t be exactly who I am today. When I say “them” I mean every part of my being, every difficult situation I went through, every person I met, every trouble I got into, every “F” I scored from my exams, every mistake I made, every cold I had, every bruise I got, every tear I dropped, every pain I endured, every negative or positive thought I had, every emotion I felt, every moment of loneliness and fear I experienced, etc. You get the point. To reject any of them is to be ungrateful of my past, or the life lessons I had been given, and not accepting or being unsatisfied with who and where I am today. There are still many things I need to work on but that doesn’t mean I’m not satisfied with what I have accomplished so far. As long as I’m aware that my personal development is a lifelong process and I have things to work on I know I’m on the right track. Believing I can only get better from here is what keeps me going! With this mindset I will not be ungrateful of whatever the universe presents to me and I know happiness is just within arms reach. 

Let me demonstrate this logic with the Dow Jones Industrial Average historical chart since this is what I’m familiar with. Believe or not the two resemble each other awfully a lot. 
 
Let’s call this chart the Dow Jones Individual Average and let’s pretend this is your life as Dow Jones. 
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Chart 1 illustrates your lifespan from the day you were born to the day you passed away. I know this might look too good to be true because our average lifespan is not that long but this was the best chart I could find so we’re going to have to work with what I got! (Full disclosure: I’m not a good chart maker.) This seems like a pretty typical life in America if you ask me. It’s a good life but it’s nothing extraordinary or extremely dramatic. You might argue that this is not typical or this is too good of a life or this is okay or whatever, but I’ll ask for your patience until the end of the demonstration so you will see my point. 

I believe this chart is self-explanatory so I’m not going into each event that’s marked on the chart. To summarize this chart, I’ll say life is unpredictable and it has its ups and downs. Some days you are on the top of the world and other days you are in the deepest ditch that you feel like you will never climb out of! However, life somehow finds its way to go on and finishes strong!

Let’s take a closer look at one event to understand better what I’m showing you. You see that big dip around 1930? You seem to be experiencing some kind of melt-down during that time after your divorce with Lynn. You were even suicidal. It took you a while to get out of that dip. I’m glad you didn’t pull the trigger or else you wouldn’t have had such a beautiful life later and given even more beautiful lives to so many of your offspring for generations to come. Your decision to continue living was a good one to say the least. 

If you didn’t know, this is The Great Depression that happened in the history of the US. Just in a couple of years, DJIA dropped from 386.10 to 40.60. That’s almost a 90% decline! If you invested $100k to begin with now you only have $10k left! Ouch! 
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Zooming into the chart, here you can see why you were suicidal. You experienced a mental breakdown and watched your life freefalling! I can only imagine what you went through during that time. Nevertheless, good for you that you didn’t fold. You didn’t give up. You didn’t realize your losses. 

In finance, we believe that money invested in the stock market is just paper money that has no real value until the profit or loss is realized, meaning to sell your positions. Once sold, you will be able to collect the proceeds or materialize your losses. At that time, everything is finalized with that particular transaction. If you made a profit you will be able to keep your profit for good if you never invest it again. However, if you lose money you will not gain your money back unless you go back into the market and even if you do there’s no guarantee you will gain it all back. I have seen this many times in my short 21 year career that people exit at the wrong time and they never had another chance to make it back in for a while because the market rebounded too quickly. Last year’s COVID correction was a good example. Even if you do make back what you lost long after you have already missed the opportunity to make more because you missed the beginning part of the recovery. For the younger folks this type of loss may still be tolerable but for the ones that are approaching retirement or already in retirement it can be catastrophic. They may never make the money back due to lack of time. You can see in chart 3 below, it took the market almost 30 years to get back to its original point in the 1930's.

If you committed suicide that would have been the end of your life where you would not have had another opportunity to recover from this and learned from your mistakes to improve your life for the better. You’d have lost forever! 

Talking about bad days, there have been some really terrible ones in the life of Dow’s. You can see from chart 2 that the worst one yet was on 10/19/1987. In one day, it dropped 22.61%! I don’t know about you, even for a financial professional like myself would have felt like the end of the world is approaching! But that too shall pass and it certainly has! 

Although when you are in the middle of the drop it can feel like it’s never going to end if you can hold onto this wild ride for just a little longer you will see the light at the end of the tunnel. See chart 3. In this chart, I want to show you why you should always hang on tight and you will always get through the tough times. There’s no drop that is too big for you to rebound in life unless life ends! 

It’s worth mentioning that in investing, there are times that you have to strategically “quiet” or take your losses due to opportunity cost, this means you can potentially benefit more if you use your time and resources somewhere else. We can tactically manage the accounts where we are free to go in and out of the market as we wish to seek opportunities to maximize profits or minimize risks. That would be part of capitalizing the opportunities during market volatilities. We also don’t need to wait for 30 years for the market to rebound completely! Without these drops it’ll be hard for us to get into the market with new money. We are always looking for these opportunities to enter, re-enter, and exit the market temporarily. Of course, the gain is never guaranteed, but what is guaranteed is the learning experiences which can potentially help us succeed in the future. This is how all portfolio managers learned to manage portfolios. However, in order to do this it requires us to stay in the game without being completely checked out forever. This is also similar to poker games in which your goal is to last as long as your last opponent so you have a chance to see the opportunities presented to you to make a comeback. 

Here’s a formula for you if you want to succeed at whatever you want to accomplish in life. It's a simple one and anyone can do it. Chances are you are already doing it without awareness so this formula will give you a nice clean visual to help you comprehend this process better. I believe it’s one thing to be successful and another to understand and remember how you became successful. If you have a formula to success you can duplicate the formula for anything you do. 
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                            Risks + Failures + Time = Experiences + Opportunities = Success

Risks: Anything you want to do that makes you feel fearful or uncomfortable because it could cost you something you value. 
Failures: Anything you tried to do but not able to achieve your desired outcome.
Time: Anything + Time will create changes. Time = Patience. If you don’t have patience you don’t have time on your side. You will last as long as your patience lasts you.
Experiences: This is acquired from the total of the first part of the equation. 
Opportunities: Without the first 4 this is hard to come by and even when they are presented to you you wouldn’t recognize what they look like.
Success: This doesn’t have to be the ultimate success you are trying to achieve. You can see on the chart where I have placed it in multiple points. In reality, they are everywhere, but because they are not THE success we are trying to reach they are often overlooked. Every success involves the first 5 elements including the big one you are shooting for but don’t forget to celebrate the small ones because they are building you up to the big one! If you understand how you have achieved every little success you will eventually figure out how to get to your final goal.  

To summarize my findings, I realized that my moment of crappiness was very temporary just like all the other thousands of them I had before. It took me 1 min to get out of that one crappy mood by realizing how great and important the other crappy moments were. All of them together summed up the person I am today. For that reason, I wouldn’t trade them in for anything! Furthermore, I realized that had I not been working on myself for the past years to become a more positive person it might have taken me a lot longer to get over that crappy feeling. With this elevated self-awareness I was able to see it from a slightly different angle even maybe as small as by taking one tiny step to the left. This proves how critical self-development is. Thus, I believe the only project we are working on in life is ourselves and no one else. 

Your life is based on how you perceive it. The more angles you see the better chance you will not get stuck in life for long. You will be able to quickly maneuver out of certain situations and free yourself from the long lasting agony. Sometimes, you can be one thought away from  becoming depressed or getting out of depression. The ability to perceive in a multidimensional way is a valuable life tool to get unstuck so you will walk further in life to see that light at the end of the tunnel. Remember, all you have to do is to hang on tight and give it time and patience. So long as you are still in the game you will have the opportunities to get better and even succeed in life. Everyone experiences the ups and downs and there’s no way to avoid the downs. However, if you can find the opportunities in the midst of chaos you will be able to get back into the market and stay in the game! The more experiences you gain the better chances you will succeed in the future. That’s why I put “Experiences” in the 3rd chart to show you that the graph is not representing wealth accumulation but life experiences. With these valuable experiences you can take on the toughest challenges in life and ensure your life will be continuing on an upward trajectory like the DJIA. 

Additionally, this is the same for relationships and marriages. Oftentimes we are tempted to walk out of our relationships because that’s the easiest thing to do - to not deal with it. In the end, we find ourselves continuing to face the same issues, just with different people in different situations. Sometimes, all we need is more time and patience and the willingness to work on ourselves instead of our partner to get over that hump.  

Lastly, I’d like to end this by saying that we have the power to create our own life chart. There’s not one way to draw it because it’s fully customizable to our individual desires! Regardless how it has turned out so far there’s always a chance to make positive changes as long as we are still here. Let’s go out there and paint the most beautiful chart of our life! ​
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The Infinite Potential

2/22/2021

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Our bodily senses and functions were created to help us enjoy the experiences of the physical world, but do not let them limit your true potential. You are an infinite being that’s merely having an human experience.

​- FeelaSoulphy
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You Are Perfect!

11/28/2020

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You are perfect the way you are for what you need to accomplish in this lifetime. 
There's no other way to be you for all the lessons you need to learn and the missions you need to fulfill. Your experiences are absolutely perfect and they all happen at the perfect timing. There's no one can tell you that you are imperfect because no one knows and will know or understands your soul's purpose in this particular life. To say you are not perfect is to say God's creation is imperfect. Do you believe somehow God has made a mistake? Or perhaps his "mistake" to us has a purpose?  
Embrace all life experiences including the struggles because that's what we are here for! There are no unfortunate events in life but only experiences and lessons. Enjoy this precious human experience as a spirit on earth! 


​- FeelaSoulphy
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