True happiness is an internal state, not contingent on the fluctuating circumstances of our external environment. If your joy springs solely from being in the company of friends, then it’s tethered to the presence of others. Similarly, if solitude is your only source of peace, your contentment relies on isolation. If the presence of sound is what brings you joy, then silence may render you restless. Conversely, if quietude is your sanctuary, noise may disrupt your sense of calm. This dependency reveals a profound truth: if our happiness is anchored to specific conditions or individuals, its stability is at risk in their absence. To cultivate a resilient, unwavering sense of joy, we must learn to detach our well-being from external factors. True happiness blooms from within, independent of our surroundings. When we achieve this state of internal harmony, we remain content regardless of external changes. So, I invite you to reflect: what are the pillars upon which your happiness rests? - Feelasoulphy
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Seeking greater happiness? Then... Desire that nothing differs from this very moment. Desire that no one deviates from their true selves, while continually inspiring through positive actions. Desire that your circumstances mirror this present state, yet grasp the lessons and implement actions to shape your future. Such is the influence of the "What is." - Feelasoulphy A friend of mine told me a story the other day. His dear friend had gotten terminal cancer and passed away. One important lesson she taught my friend was that for the entire time she had the illness she did not suffer mentally. She was able to keep her spirit high. The secret was, instead of continuing to ask the question of “Why me?” she accepted the “what is” and answered with “Why not me?”. Although they both seem to be questions there are significant differences in the two where I have demonstrated here. In the last three years of her life, she was able to enjoy every moment of it and it was probably the best three years of her entire life. I always believe there’s a reason for everything. The fact that my friend told me about the story and now that I’m sharing it with you is because she left an important lesson for all of us to learn, especially the ones that are reading this post. I’m grateful for her valuable contribution and legacy to the world. Why Me vs. Why Not Me “Why Me” is a forever unanswered question that brings us endless suffering. “Why Not Me” is a simple answer to many of our complicated questions that leads us to clarity and the relief of misery. “Why Me” represents the unknown which often involves fear. “Why Not Me” is absolute certainty that only gives you sheer confidence. “Why Me” is persistence which will be met with continued resistance. “Why Not Me” is total acceptance accompanied by faith that results in seamless flow. “Why Me” is not only selfish but also cowardly because we wish it happened to someone else other than us. “Why Not Me” is selfless and brave that fully engages the challenges head on and bears all responsibilities. Therefore, “Why Me” is the source of suffering whereas “Why Not Me” is the source of peace and joy. - Feelasoulphy Seeker: Where do I find love, peace, and happiness…?
Universe: Where are they felt? Seeker: Hmm…inside? Universe: Why are you looking on the outside? 100% of our experiences and feelings, such as love, peace, and happiness, are felt from within, yet we are always trying to obtain them from without. We must first begin seeking in the right place. If you find them externally, you are only on a borrowed term because once what makes you happy departs, there also goes your love, peace, and happiness. So, own them yourself by finding them internally. It’s actually a lot easier than you think because you already have them. When you find and own plenty of them, you can then share them with others who will be drawn to you because you have what everyone is looking for. But remember, do not make anyone depend on you for the sake of controlling them. You must either find those who already have these qualities themselves or help them find their own, or else they will leech on you and suck the life out of you. Not only should you look in the right place, but also seek the right things. If you seek, you shall find. Be careful what you are looking for. Hate, fear, sadness, pain, etc., reside in the same place as the others. Where you put your attention is what you will experience and manifest into reality. To avoid finding things you don’t want, you must organize and clean up the space you live in. This is where deep healing comes in, which will declutter and help you find things much easier. If you run into any bad memories and negative emotions along the way, don’t freak out. Use them as your guides to trace back to the source of these emotions. Lincoln once said, “Destroy your enemies by making them your friends.” If you perceive them as your enemies, then they will make your life miserable, but if you make them your friends, they will become the best tools you have for finding love, peace, and happiness. - Feelasoulphy If your happiness depends on other people’s attentions eventually you will be unhappy because the same people you are depending on are too busy seeking attentions from others. - Feelasoulphy Today’s good day is the result of yesterday’s bad day. All you had to do was get through yesterday! Today’s bad day will be the reason of tomorrow’s good day. All you have to do is get through today! Don’t give up today! - Feelasoulphy Being unhappy is the first step to becoming happy. Unhappiness is a type of human emotion. Just like all other emotions, it is not always a bad thing if it’s only a temporary or transitional state. What is bad is prolonging the changes that need to be made which results a permanent state. In fact, being unhappy is your first step to happiness. It is the ultimate driver to get out of your current state of being to achieve more desired results. It’s unrealistic to be happy all the time because if you care about yourself you'd want to change for the better. Sometimes change might not feel like a pleasant experience at the moment. If you are constantly trying to improve yourself these emotions of happiness and unhappiness can be a continuous cycle until you reach mastery. You are unhappy because you detect something that is not going right. You might not know exactly what and how to fix it yet but you are consciously and unconsciously trying to make it better. The more self-aware you become the more “flaws” you will notice about yourself. Just because you notice more of your flaws it doesn’t mean you have more issues. It just means you are more aware of them. At some point there will be more happy moments than unhappy moments because there will be less problems to work on. Oftentimes people are unhappy about their unhappiness, but once you understand this emotional cycle you will actually be happier because you begin to accept the unhappiness as part of the process of becoming happy. - Feelasoulphy You know why some of the wealthiest people in the world cannot buy happiness all the time? Because what makes the poor angry also makes the rich angry, what makes the poor sad also makes the rich sad, same as for jealousy, anxiousness, fear, pain, worry, insecurity, etc. Internally, we are the same regardless how different we look from the outside. Wealth is not only measured by the amount of money we have but also the wisdoms from within. - Feelasoulphy The ego never desires true happiness for you because it doesn’t comprehend what it is. The ego only wants to be high from one moment to the next so it has you addicted to the feeling. If you are seeking for long lasting true happiness, ask your heart. It knows exactly where it is. - Feelasoulphy Once you discover your true purpose in life, you will be able to fulfill your own dreams and only then you will be better equipped to help others to pursue their dreams. Sometimes when you are not happy with your job it could be because you are helping someone else to fulfill their dreams. What makes other people happy doesn’t mean it will make you happy. In addition, if you are not happy you won’t show up 100% to help others achieve their goals. Each of us has our own unique gifts and purposes for specific reasons in life. Not being able to use your gifts towards your passion can cause disinterest in what you are doing. Discover what your true-life purposes are to fulfill your dreams so you can help others to pursue their dreams. - FeelaSoulphy |
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