Judging someone based on their appearance—or even on your experiences with them—rarely captures who they truly are. When we judge, we often see through the lens of our own past and present states, which can color our perception. This is known as projection: we’re using our own experiences and mental state to interpret someone else’s, often without realizing it.

When you judge a person, you’re often judging the outcomes of their experiences, not the person themselves. Who they are is shaped by a lifetime of unique experiences, struggles, and perspectives that we may never fully understand. So, when you judge, are you truly assessing them, or are you reflecting aspects of yourself? Are you judging their experiences, which you know little about, or projecting your own onto them?

This issue becomes even more complex when we judge based on someone’s culture or background. Often, we rely on limited information—perhaps what we’ve read, heard, or experienced in a few interactions with certain individuals. But this narrow lens is insufficient to conclude anything substantial about an entire culture or any person within it. Furthermore, our judgments are influenced by our own cultural understanding, which inevitably shapes our biases. Since no two cultures share the same history, judgments based on these fragments are inherently flawed.

This flaw becomes especially damaging when we judge entire groups or races based on limited interactions, leading to stereotyping. If understanding an individual requires deep awareness, imagine the impossibility of truly grasping the diversity of an entire race or culture.

In addition to being incomplete, judgment also affects the one doing the judging. Even if we never manifest these judgments into actions, they impact us internally. Judgment rarely brings peace, joy, or love; instead, it stirs subtle emotions like irritation, disgust, and annoyance, and can even escalate to feelings of anxiety, fear, anger, or stress. Imagine the state of mind created by constantly judging someone or a group of people. When judgment becomes habitual, it can cloud our inner peace, draining our energy and well-being.

Every little judgment we hold also creates a subtle distance between us and others. These small moments of separation accumulate over time, creating a much larger divide until we feel completely separate from the person or group. This is how judgment slowly builds an illusion of separation from the original unity that binds us all.

In truth, we are one, interconnected like threads in a single tapestry, inseparable in the flow of energy that sustains us. The separation we feel is an illusion, constructed by our physical eyes and mind. Each judgment reinforces this illusion, eventually forming a belief system that shapes our decisions and interactions. When we forget our unity and buy into this illusion of separation, we disconnect from our true nature and from the peace that comes from remembering we are all part of each other.

It starts with small, seemingly harmless judgments. At first, they might feel insignificant, but over time, these judgments can grow, breaking down relationships between lovers, friends, and family. The disconnection can expand into entire communities, countries, and even lead to global conflicts. Wars, whether personal or political, often begin with small arguments or misunderstandings—rooted in judgments that escalate and spiral out of control. This is the power of judgment: what begins as a small seed of separation can eventually cause massive division and harm.
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In this way, judgments are fleeting and subjective snapshots—rarely capturing the whole truth of a person or a group. To judge fairly would require fully understanding their experiences, which is nearly impossible. So perhaps the best approach is to hold judgment lightly, with an open mind and heart, remembering the unity that binds us all.

I believe the event that happened on 1/6/2021 at the Capitol Hill has further divided us as a nation. At this point it doesn't matter if you support Trump or not or even being neutral. You have chosen a side. No one knows for sure who's right and who's wrong. There are too many speculations combined with imaginations and facts. This is similar to a couple's fight that oftentimes we just can't determine the rights and wrongs. We are not even arguing the same thing anymore. Both parties will end up losing the battle if the fight continues. In most cases, both should take some responsibilities and self-reflect on what we could have done better to prevent this from happening again. In order to move pass this, we have to come to the realization of what's more important to us, winning an argument or our relationships. The division will always exist if we don't realize this because we will always have our differences, such as the way we look and think. We need to accept this as our reality and instead of hating each other due to these differences we ought to embrace them as uniquenesses so we can learn from each other and see the world through these wonderful unique lenses. Only when we can cherish these uniquenesses will we unit the world. 

Additionally, we need to focus more on the similarities in us instead of differences. As long as we only see disparities, we will continue to disagree with each other. As long as we continue to call ourselves Americans, Chinese, Mexicans, Republicans, Democrats, White, Asian, Black, etc,  we will never see the similarities in us. I suggest we look beyond our appearances, culture, religious beliefs, political parties, etc. Let’s see ourselves as human beings. We all have a body, mind, and soul. I believe we were all created equal with one thing we all have in common, the ability to love unconditionally. We may not all seem that way but deep down we are all capable of loving someone or something unconditionally. Once we understand this, we will be able to forgive and have compassions towards one another and live among each other with peace and harmony. Otherwise, history will indeed repeat itself that we will be torn apart in pieces and lives will be lost. This is too familiar to us because we have been here many times and the results have never changed. It's absolutely insane to repeat the same mistake again and again. 

Thus, let us all turn to love for answers to unite the world! And the first step is to hug our families and friends who have disagreed with us on our views and see the world through their eyes. Ask them to forgive us and tell them how much we love them regardless of our uniquenesses. Together we will be united as ONE! 

​- FeelaSoulphy