Forgiveness

3/31/2021

Remind yourself that your worst enemies on earth are your closest friends in heaven. Appreciate them, forgive them, and remember them.

- FeelaSoulphy

2 Comments

Michael Morris link

6/6/2021 01:06:07 am

I cannot process this statement, I am struggling to find a lesson.

My worst enemies on earth i leave them be and realise they are just miss guided in their actions, i do not think about them because i could be thinking of, or appreciating something else that i find meaningful or entertaining.

FeelaSoulphy

6/8/2021 08:40:38 am

Thank you for your comment and great question Michael!

There can be many lessons involved in a relationship like that. We have all had "enemies" in our lives at some point. I remember the ones I had truly taught me many lessons. First of all, they were "enemies" to my old self at the time based on the state of mind and maturity level I was in. If the same situation and person presented to me now I believe how I see, feel, and handle the situation could be very different. Maybe the person would have never become an enemy of mine in the first place. However, because the person was in my life at the time and did somehow become my "enemy" I was given the opportunity to have an interaction and be involved in a relationship with the person. I believe we learn well through relationships with others. They present us with varieties of situations or I call it settings for us to learn. Without them we wouldn't have had those opportunities. They also force us to learn because we can't always simply avoid dealing with them, especially if they are members of our families. I believe the only thing we are working on is ourselves and no one else. We are supposed to focus on our own problems. Whatever situations we are in and people we are dealing with they are there for the benefits of our own(soul) growth. I have written a post here about this which goes in more depth about what I mean. Feel free to check it out, http://feelasoulphy.com/see/the-only-project-you-are-working-on-is-you

Secondly, let's brainstorm some possible lessons we can learn from these difficult relationships. I'll put them in the form of questions.

How did I handle the situation? Did I react to the situation or the person? Was I angry? What type of emotions did I have? Why did I feel this way? What were the triggers of my emotions? Are they rooted back to my childhood traumas? Are there patterns for my behaviors? In other words, do I often react the same way when other people trigger them? Was I compassionate towards the person? Can I forgive the person? If not, why can't I? What could I have done differently to avoid this conflict in the beginning so next time around I won't be in the same situation? Can I reconcile with this person? If no, why not? Am I still holding grudges? Why do I feel the need to do that? Is it my ego or pride? Did I put myself in that person's shoes? Did I understand why he/she did or say such things to me? Was I empathetic enough towards the person? Is there anything at all I could have done better? What do I need to change or improve? How can I be more aware of my FEARTW(Feelings, emotions, actions, reactions, thoughts, words) and theirs if possible? Am I reacting to the samethings but with different people? Do I act this way towards others or just this particular person? Finally, what are the lessons that the universe is showing over and over again?

As you can see, the questions can go on and on. This is how we develop self-awareness and sometimes it takes others to help us develop them. We all need mirrors to see our true selves. As I always say, everything happens for a good reason. Every situation is a learning opportunity. Every person has ever been in our lives meant to teach us something. We just need to start becoming more aware of the lessons.

On a spiritual level, I believe we have soul contracts with the people in our lives. We preplanned some of these situations or settings with these souls so we can learn the lessons we have been trying to learn for many lifetimes. It doesn't matter if the person is an enemy of yours or your best friend they serve great purposes in your life. Jus look at all the people you know and you have known and see what you need to learn from them, such as their qualities that you don't have yet. You'll be surprised to find out they have something you really need fory our own growth.

Anyway, that's why I wrote what I wrote here. Sorry for the long explanation. It's hard to explain things in a few sentences sometimes. haha

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