 We invented money hoping to make our lives easier and happier but little did we know the very thing we created is controlling our lives and making things more difficult and complicated. - FeelaSoulphy
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 When someone else tries to hurt you you naturally defend yourself, but when you try to hurt yourself there’s no one can defend you. Be gentle to yourself please. - FeelaSoulphy  Emotional pain is not a problem itself but a problem detector. it shows you what you need to work on in your life. This is similar to a physical pain which indicates there maybe a bigger issue with your health or simply telling you to stop hurting yourself. Search within so you can identify the root of this pain. - FeelaSoulphy  The only real enemy you have is you. - FeelaSoulphy  Loneliness is felt when one cannot befriend one’s self. You may wonder how you befriend yourself? Ask yourself this, how do you befriend anyone? Let me remind you what you already do. You show interest about their lives, you care for them deeply, you respect them, you listen to them, you make time for them, you make them feel special, support their passions, make peace with them, be there for them when they need you the most, make them laugh, have heart-to-heart conversations with them, trust them whole heartedly and never doubt them, be honest to them even if the truth may hurt, love them unconditionally for who they are, accept all their flaws without judgements, and cheer them up when they are down. See, you know exactly how to befriend yourself. - FeelaSoulphy  How important is raising your children the right way? Imagine how many people your children will impact throughout their lifetimes. Including their own lives and yours. Creating positive ripples starts in yourself and your own family. - FeelaSoulphy  You are the victim of your own assumptions. - FeelaSoulphy  Don’t quickly react to other people’s words and actions instead understand that how they treat you is how they have been treated. The anger they project on you displays how much they are in pain. They want you to feel exactly how they feel from inside. Especially if you are the one that hurt them. Don’t continue to give the power to their ego. The more you feed their ego the bigger your ego gets. - FeelaSoulphy  Don’t just listen and understand what the others are going through but feel it FOR them and THROUGH them as if you ARE them. This is the deepest compassion you can give to them; only then you will learn what to do and not to do to others. - FeelaSoulphy  In a relationship, controlling is when you try to fit your partner into your own world. You are essentially trying to take someone else’s freedom away! Everyone creates their own realities based on their unique personal experiences. We have built a belief system around rules and regulations that we follow as our life principles. This is perfectly fine for ourselves until we expect our partners to also follow our rules and beliefs. When they don’t, we feel disappointed and try to force our rules upon them. This controlling behavior that we all have acted on is purely for self-preservation purpose. We wonder why our relationship don’t last. Who wants to live under someone else’s rules that they don’t understand? We have to realize that what we believe right sometimes only applies to ourselves. This is our own reality that we live in and not anyone else’s. Although we share a common outer universe our inner worlds can be drastically different from each other’s because of our unique past(I call this “Parallel Universes”.) We should never force our partners to follow our own rules because they were never made for them. Respect their universe like we wish them to respect ours. Trying to take another person’s freedom away is not only selfish but also very damaging to your relationships. - FeelaSoulphy |
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